What's good? So we are officially 9 days into the New Year. This is my first reflection and I think "Life, Love, & Forgiveness" is a very befitting title. So here we go....
First and foremost, anyone who really knows me know that there are two serious character flaws that I possess (and that I'm working on). Number one, I have somewhat of a temper, I can go from zero to ten, in .5 seconds flat and once I'm there I am nothing nice. Secondly, I can hold a hellva grudge. However, in recent months I have started a more serious and rigorous learning process from these two flaws in particular.
I truly believe that in order to receive forgiveness in any realm from any person(s) then forgiveness is a must. Holding grudges does not affect the people you are holding them against. A long time ago (and several times since) I've had people tell me and heard people say that forgiveness is not for the other person it is for you. And if you want to take it a step farther and step into the religious sector, there is no way that God can or will forgive us, lest we first forgive others, and more over we must remember to forgive ourselves for whatever.
Now, for me, the most difficult area in life to deal with forgiveness is love. I've truly had my share of bad relationships, jerks for ex's and so on and so fourth, and I can be honest and say that there were times when I was not the best girlfriend/woman. I now realize that some of the things that were done (and some of the things that I did) branched from un-forgiveness of past relationships, regret, fear, and even jealousy. The worst thing that any man or woman can do is to make their "next" suffer for the mistakes of the "ex". That is a process that is much easier said then done, but, it has to be done if one is to truly be happy in their life and love.
So....as I bring this reflection to a close, I must say...live and learn...live and love...live and forgive
until next time....
